I want to share a story.......

I wanted to share a story I know only a few people know about. Anyone who knew Tiff and I knew that it was the "goal" to defy the odds and make Senior Chief and someday be a Chief of the Boat. I know on the surface this seems self centered in that it is seemingly geared towards me, but I assure you that it was her goal as well. She only wanted the best for and from us, and insisted that we could end up anywhere as long as we tried our best. As long as we gave it our all would be the most important thing. The problem was that in my world they were only making 1 or 2 Senior Chiefs a years. That gave us less than a 1% chance. Well after our tour on TUCSON we got back to Virginia and as most of you are aware of she got the word about her diagnosis. Senior Chief as well as COB were obviously the furthest things from our mind, and truly no longer mattered. It's amazing how when something like that occurs you immediately want all of the time and sacrifice that led to that point, back. Trust me when I say I struggle with that daily.
Anyways, time and the fight marched on and after a year of a ton of Chemo, Surgery, medications, etc.. We were sitting at the dining room table when I got the call. They made 2 and yes we were one of them. After everything that had happened in the last year it was truly an overwhelming emotion that left us both holding each other and crying like little girls. It was conformation that while we could not get our time back that at least we did it "right". It was also like why is GOD doing this? What was the message for US in this? Tiff was sooooo proud. I think as proud of herself as she was of me, and rightfully so. She always said that no matter what happens to finish what we started. I never really took those words seriously as I obviously did not want to face to mortality of the whole thing. It was at this time that without my knowledge she went and had a COIN made. The coin had a Senior Chief rating badge on one side and on the back it said TMCS 22 May 2008. There is a tradition in the CHIEFS community. you place the coin in the palm of your hand and reach out to shake the other persons hand leaving them the COIN. That is exactly how she gave it to me. Just like a CHIEF...She could always impress me..;-)
The rest of the year we worked on her own little bucket list. With the help of Uncle Mickey she saw a Bulldog game in Athens, and actually sat in the coaches office and talked to him for about 30 mins. She was sooooo giddy even though I could tell she didn't feel well as she tried to hide it. She started to develop a small plural effusion(fluid outside the lungs), but was scheduled to make one more trip to Hawaii and see her friends one last time. She went to the doctor and he said she would be fine and we could start the next round of chemo when she returned. The trip was gonna be two weeks and she was really excited to see the people she loved so much one last time.
Shortly after getting to the island her condition was worsening. Fever, and increased shortness of breathe. A trip to the emergency room in Hawaii did not help at all, and now the concern was getting back. I told her I was calling the airline and she would be leaving tonight. I needed her home and needed to get her to the doctor. I could tell just by talking to her she was week. She got on the plane and called me from Dallas, and said she wasn't sure she could get to her next flight(shortness of breathe, flush, and fever). She got a ride to the next terminal, and the flight attendants were not sure they could let her board. She told them if she did not get on that plane she might die in Texas and that could not happen. she needed to get to her husband. She mustered up the strength to speak to me on the phone, and tell me she was on her way. Planes are pressurized to 35000 feet, and with fluid on her lungs this was pain on top of everything else she was going through.
I waited at the end of the terminal and saw her walking toward me. Pale, week, and wobbling. She collapsed in my arms. I thought I had lost her. As I held her in my arms she reached out with an open hand and showed me the COIN she given me before and said "you were with me" "I could not have made it back without you".

I am sharing this story because I am currently in school and on my way to go be a Chief of the Boat. Finishing what we started.